What Everyone’s Doing

I log onto FB, and they’re doing it. All of them. With pictures to prove it.

My friends, family members, casual acquaintances…seemingly everyone I know is doing it.

“We should do it.”

“Do what?” B&B asks.

“Do this,” I reply, tilting the monitor so he can see.

He frowns. “You’re out of your mind. We’re not doing that.”

“The kids would like it, I think.”

He shakes his head. “The kids would be miserable. They’d ruin it for us.”

I beg to differ. “Don’t you mean you would be miserable? And ruin it for the rest of us?”

He shrugs. “Same difference. The outcome is misery. We’re not doing it.”

What is it they are doing?


Everyone is skiing. Everyone but us.


Here are 5 solid reasons you won’t see the Meyer family on the slopes this winter.

1.) It’s fucking freezing.

I can handle the cold. But my kids hate extreme temperatures. They don’t do well in July, and they fare equally poorly in February. It’s important to remember that they are boys, which makes them anatomically incapable of keeping a pair of gloves married for longer than 37 minutes. Back in December, I organized their winter accessories. I was left with 8 gloves of all different sizes and patterns. All right handed.

Say we take them skiing. By the time we arrive at the mountain, an hour’s drive away, the four of them are already 23 minutes beyond the point of knowing where each of their left handed gloves are. The cumulative complaining about their frozen left hands would put a damper on the day.

But, B&B would put them to shame. He abhors the cold. Stick him on a snow capped mountain, where the temps peak at 20 degrees, and he simply cannot function.

Not without complaining more frequently than my kids, who at least have reason to complain. Since all four of them are glove-less.

2.) I’ll lose one of them. 

I’m in the business of crowd control. I do try to share meaningful moments with each of my kids. I’m smart enough to attempt them within the confines of my own home. Meaningful moments don’t happen outside the house. Because the minute we exit the premises, I morph into someone whose behavior closely resembles that of a secret service agent.   “I’ve got these two covered. You cover those two. Wait, I lost one…I LOST HIM! No, he’s good. He’s here. He was peeing behind the tree, but I found him. He’s just pulling up his pants now. I’ve got two. You have two? We’re good? Let’s move.”

Desperate to connect, the kids try to talk to me when we’re out in public. I flash a phony smile, “That’s wonderful, honey!” I raise my eyebrows and throw in a gasp for good measure, “Gasp! You did? I’m so proud of you!” But I’m not listening to them. I can’t. I’m too busy counting them, herding them forward, reminding them to remove their hands from their penises, barking at them to stop touching one another, cut it out already with the potty talk, and for the love of Pete, smile, because we are having so much fun!

If I strap skis to their feet, place them atop a mountain of ice, and yell, “Let’s all stay together!” or worse, “See you at the bottom,” that will be the last moment we share as a family.

I will never be able to keep track of them.

3.) Ski poles are weapons.

I know the Verb and the Interrogator, ages 4 and 6, would learn to ski without poles. In which case only the Kenyan and Waldorf would be wielding weapons. 2 kids with ski poles is better than 4 kids with ski poles, right?


How do you expect my younger sons to defend themselves against their older brothers? Because they will indeed have to defend themselves. From poking…from swatting…from jousting. To equip them with ski poles is dangerous, irresponsible, and stupid. But, to leave them defenseless against their armed older brothers is just plain suicide.

So, I’d have to insist on poles for everyone. Say it with me…”brawl”. We’d be lucky to disentangle them long enough to shuffle them over to the chair lift for the first run of the day. If we actually managed to get them into line, we’d have to wait our turn, which would give them time enough to poke, swat, and joust with one another in tighter confines.  Unable to hear my voice over the wind, and just out of reach of my short arms, I’d be forced to use my poles to disentangle them. It’s likely I’d have to do some poking, swatting, and jousting of my own.

And someone would undoubtedly get hurt.

Because ski poles are weapons.

4.) I cannot run the risk of injury.

The chances of the kids getting hurt…frostbite aside…are slim. B&B is an entirely different animal. He is predisposed to injuries. Particularly in cold conditions.

Exhibit A:

We take Waldorf and the Kenyan sledding one Friday evening. First time down the hill, B&B sleds…sober…directly into a baby tree. Breaking his collar bone. And sending the Kenyan into a temper tantrum for cutting his fun short. B&B wears a sling for the next several weeks. He is unable to lift the children. Unable to wash the dishes. Unable to dress himself. Unable to put on his belt. Unable to tie his shoes. He expects me to wait on him.

It’s a recipe for wedded disaster.

Exhibit B:

After a very long 6 weeks of nursing the broken collar bone, B&B finally feels ready to exercise. He dons his running gear.

Me: “You should hit the track. Take it easy. No intervals. Just get some time on your legs.”

B&B: “Yeah, that’s probably what I’ll do.”

Me: “Seriously, do NOT run the trails. It’s too icy. You haven’t run in awhile. Make that something you work towards.”

B&B: “Yeah, I hear you.”

2 hours later, he hobbles into the house. Jacket ripped. Hands bleeding. Bloody right hip. Ribs bruised.

Me: “Is that fake blood?”

B&B: “I got problems.”

Me: “Are you joking? Because pretending you’re hurt again isn’t funny.”

B&B: “I’m not joking, Bethany. I fell. I really hurt my hands. And my hip. And my ribs.”

Me: “You fell on the track?”

B&B: “Of course not. I fell on the trails. You were right. They were really icy.”

Of course they were.

Exhibit C:

B&B decides to take Waldorf, the Kenyan, and their two buddies sledding. They load up the car and drive to a local hill.

Shortly after they leave the house, I text him…

Me: “Having fun?”

Him: “No.”

Me: “Huh? Why not?”

Him: “I fucked up my ribs.”

Me: “Ha. Ha. Seriously, why not?”

Him: “I am serious.”

Oy vey.

Me: “Shutup!! What happened?!”

Him: “I was at the top of the hill, holding onto my sled. I took a running start. And I tripped over my fucking shoelace, which must have been untied. And I fell down. HARD. Right onto my fist. It hurts to breathe. I think I cracked a fuckin’ rib.”

Me: “You’re saying you attempted a running start, tripped on your own shoelace, landed on your own fist, and hurt your rib?”

Him: “Yes. We may have to go to the hospital. Again.”

Me: “Are you serious? Did this really happen? I am ROFLMAO at the visual.”

Him: “Fuck you. It happened.”

Me: “Well, I’m sorry you got hurt. Again. Good luck telling the Kenyan he has to leave sledding early again so you can go to the hospital. Again. He’s going to have a royal hissy.”

Him: “No shit. You’re not going to post anything about this on FB, are you?”

Me: “Never. I wouldn’t dream of it.”

To fit this injury-prone man with a pair of skis and place him on a mountain and tempt him with the thrill of achieving high speeds while racing his offspring down a steep hill is to ensure that our next stop is the hospital.

I don’t know much. But I do know this.

5.) I’d have to sell a kidney on the black market to be able to afford it.


Even in the fine state of Pennsylvania, where the Pocono Mountains offer free lift tickets all season for 4th and 5th grade students, it still costs a small fortune.

Boots x 6 people
+Skis x 6 people
+lift tickets x 5 people
+ lessons x 4 people
+ gear x 6 people
=Skiing is expensive.

The last time I skied, I wore mint green bib overalls, a pair of sunglasses from the Limited, and a pom pom hat that my Mom wore religiously from 1970-1975. And I was on the cutting edge of mountain top fashion.

I was in Marshall’s last month and tried on a pair of ski pants. Not with skiing in mind…purely to wear sledding with the kids. I broke out into a sweat merely trying to wrestle them onto my body. In what universe does a mother of 4 have to remove her underwear in a dressing room in order to squeeze into a pair of ski pants? Because I was in that universe. And it was disturbing. Boot cut, skinny leg, low rise ski pants? They’re gonna cost me. Because it’s not merely the price of the pants. It’s the personal training sessions I’m going to need to reshape my body to fit into those ski pants.

Move over, Susie Chapstick, times have changed.

And evidently, so have ski pants.

Oh well. There’s always next year…

***This post appeared in the parenting section of the Huffington Post on February 8th, 2013.


Our This Is Childhood series continues this week with Galit Breen painting the most poignant picture of age 4. The same age as my baby. Yep. I cried when I read it. Head over to read Galit, who is such an exceptional writer.

14 thoughts on “What Everyone’s Doing

  1. Here’s the deal. We only ski because I married an ex ski bum who tried to kill his immigrant parents by taking his engineering degree with him to colorado and waiting tables and “instructing” at Keystone.

    Only do it if you get phenomenally wealthy and can hire separate ski intsructors and ski concierge for family. Otherwise, wait til they’re older.

    • LOLOL!!!I grew up skiing. Love it. My hubby, on the other hand, did not.

      Looks like we’ll be waiting until they’re older.

      Thanks for reading…and for the laugh!

  2. Too funny! I too have seen the posts and heard stories at work, everyone seems to be doing it!! Thank you for giving me more reasons to wait one more year!

  3. I live smack dab in the middle between ELK and Montage Mountains, both being 20 minutes from me, and I still have not taken Blake…..what is my excuse? I have 1 child and still cant get my ass up there. I totally get it! I haven’t been skiiing in years, but think I would be OK. My husband grew up here and just learned how a few years ago. His mother would not allow him to go Skiing (or play football or get his drivers license-but that is a story for a different day). So, I really want to encourage my kid to try new things when their is no fear, at age 4. So that being said, look forward to my FB ski pictures coming soon!

    • Montage was my favorite growing up! Honestly, I’m just as worried that I’ll get hurt. One of my friends hurt her knee skiing with her kids and had surgery as a result. Long rehab. Another fell and needed surgery on her thumb. Another long rehab. If I can’t exercise, I’m taking this whole ship down with me. Count on that, girlfriend.

  4. At first I thought you were hypothesizing (Good lord. First, I had to make up hypotheticizing before I could think of that real word. I am losing my grip here) BB’s injuries because NOBODY gets injured that many times in a row– and then I realized it was true. The poor man. Ah-haha– poor you! So many funny lines. “Because I was in that universe. And it was disturbing.” LOL! Great post. <3

  5. So i just heard about cousin Bethany’s blog about a week ago. My first thoughts were that i just don’t understand why people blog and why anyone would be interested in reading random people’s blogs, but since this is family i figured i’d give it a try–or i should say a “cry” as i sit her blowing my nose from both laughing and crying at the few posts i have read. My laundry and dirty dishes did NOT get done during my 2 hours of preschool chore time thanks to you, but i feel like i at least got a little exercise from the laughing out loud (and sobbing i think too), which is more exercise then i usually get (although may need to work that in based on your strong recommendation. I also may consider joining FB since you make it sound so fun and not just a complete time suck.) I could go on but ANYWAY–i look forward to sneaking in time to read more! God help my poor house that will have to wait to be attended to! (sorry for the bad grammar there) Keep it up Bethany!

    • Heidi, my initial thoughts about blogging were the same as yours! A friend encouraged me to read This Is How I Do It (http://tihidi.com/), written by a Mom of 5, and I fell in love with her stories and her family. FB rocks! It’s largely responsible for helping me maintain my friendships (and my sanity)! Please join!

      Thank you so much for reading! So glad you enjoyed. Our family does love its stories, don’t we? XO

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